Some Relationship advice? Anger is an emotional response from a real or imagined threat. Anger is painful and we need to get relief. We use anger to protect/cover up vulnerable feelings. We learned to deny and suppress our feelings so we will not be in emotional pain anymore. However, when something happens in the present, […]

As a child, James tried his best to cope with his dysfunctional loved ones as best he could. He withdrew to avoid provoking their painful behaviour. When he was out of their sight, they couldn't torment him. His father punched him in the face with a fist for any reason and chance and his sister […]

It is important to realise that although stress cannot be avoided, it can be managed. Prolonged periods of stress become harmful to the body and weaken your immune system to leave you depleted, feeling overwhelmed and prone to illness. The office can be a place of stress for most workers. It is necessary to decompress […]

Communication, or the lack thereof, is usually the most significant problem in a relationship, normally fuelled by anger and conflict, resulting in the relationship to deteriorate. Couples struggle to resolve their conflict and let go, or do not possess the skills on how to resolve their conflict. If you can answer YES to some or […]

In Cape Town Symon Scott put on Facebook his experience of driving in Beach Road and saw some cyclists approaching the driver of a stationary vehicle that was double parked and started assaulting him violently. He recording the incident on his cellphone where you can clearly see how they battered the vehicle, bent the windscreen […]

It is very important to realise the person showing signs of rage on the road, will not be thinking clearly. He will also not be acting rationally. Make sure to avoid eye contact Try to let it go. Do not take it personally. The action is not against you as person. Keep yourself as calm […]

Author: Karen van Zyl - Consultant at The Anger and Stress Management Centre, Pretoria  2014 Anger is a natural, normal human emotion but the way that we express it may not be serving us. If it is used to drive revenge and not meaningful change, it leads to destructive behaviours. At the Anger and Stress […]

Our accurate stress test has been designed to help you know what levels of stress you have in ten key areas of your life over and above any major significant event. It is usually very difficult to pin-point where the stress lies, to what extent it is impacting us and whether it is above average. […]

Most conflicts can be resolved, but often we don't know how or we don't want to. We think we are proving a point but actually we are harming ourselves in the long run.

Road rage incidents seem to be on the increase and this may be attributable to higher stress levels and more cars on the road leading to more congestion and unpleasant driving experiences.